You would think that for me...being a parent of 5, Child Care provider for over 16 years & Special Needs Caregiver with umpteen million years of Child Development Education,etc. that I would know how to handle every parenting situation & how to dicipline "correctly"...but sad to say NOPE!
Even with all my training, I'm still learning. I'm still working on my parenting, still learning how to discipline my children, still learning manners. For many of us, we parent the way we were parented to, with a combination of our own beliefs/experiences & what we've seen on TV. There has NEVER been a perfect parent & there never will be... (well except for maybe my grandmother & Mrs. Cleaver...).
We as parents have to remember that we don't & can't control how others parent, nor can we control how others will react to situations. All we can do is Model the behavior we want to see in our kids & speak to them as we would like to be spoken to. I am FARRRR from a perfect parent & I know that no amount of experience or training will ever make me the perfect parent, I also know that my children will never be perfect & that's ok.
No matter where you go, what you do, I guarantee people will have a difference of opinion, again, we can't change that...what we can do is control how we react to situations, & yes we will look back & sometimes realize that we could have handled a situation better, or maybe we handled it in the best way possible...for us.....at that time. The key is to not let it get to us...I try to remember what my mom always told us...life is WAAAAY to short to worry about something that is not life threatening. Again, that was her way of parenting...right or wrong...who's to say? She was brought up without yelling, spanking or time outs & yet, we sometimes got yelled at, spanked & the occasional...time out (aka: sent to our rooms). She was brought up in an evironment where everyone helped out because if you didn't the entire home would fall apart (imagine 12 children in a 3 bedroom house). Everyone worked together..."there was no time to complain", my mom says that no matter what, they were a very loving & happy family because they helped one another & each supported the other.
What's my point?? That the word parenting & perfect/right/wrong, should NEVER be used in the same sentence...it's an Oxymoron!
Big Hugs to all you parents who've ever felt judged... PLEEEEAAASSSEEE remember....we are all just trying our best with what we know. And what I do know is that we ALL need each others support.....
You know the old saying... "A child behaves as well as he/she is treated." What about...... "An adult behaves as well as he/she is treated." So let's all try to treat each other ... better.
Please.
Even with all my training, I'm still learning. I'm still working on my parenting, still learning how to discipline my children, still learning manners. For many of us, we parent the way we were parented to, with a combination of our own beliefs/experiences & what we've seen on TV. There has NEVER been a perfect parent & there never will be... (well except for maybe my grandmother & Mrs. Cleaver...).
We as parents have to remember that we don't & can't control how others parent, nor can we control how others will react to situations. All we can do is Model the behavior we want to see in our kids & speak to them as we would like to be spoken to. I am FARRRR from a perfect parent & I know that no amount of experience or training will ever make me the perfect parent, I also know that my children will never be perfect & that's ok.
No matter where you go, what you do, I guarantee people will have a difference of opinion, again, we can't change that...what we can do is control how we react to situations, & yes we will look back & sometimes realize that we could have handled a situation better, or maybe we handled it in the best way possible...for us.....at that time. The key is to not let it get to us...I try to remember what my mom always told us...life is WAAAAY to short to worry about something that is not life threatening. Again, that was her way of parenting...right or wrong...who's to say? She was brought up without yelling, spanking or time outs & yet, we sometimes got yelled at, spanked & the occasional...time out (aka: sent to our rooms). She was brought up in an evironment where everyone helped out because if you didn't the entire home would fall apart (imagine 12 children in a 3 bedroom house). Everyone worked together..."there was no time to complain", my mom says that no matter what, they were a very loving & happy family because they helped one another & each supported the other.
What's my point?? That the word parenting & perfect/right/wrong, should NEVER be used in the same sentence...it's an Oxymoron!
Big Hugs to all you parents who've ever felt judged... PLEEEEAAASSSEEE remember....we are all just trying our best with what we know. And what I do know is that we ALL need each others support.....
You know the old saying... "A child behaves as well as he/she is treated." What about...... "An adult behaves as well as he/she is treated." So let's all try to treat each other ... better.
Please.
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